Infinite Fellowship Ministries

The Mystery Of Sex – Part 1: Sermon By Apostle Gobanga

When a gift is abused, it loses value to serve its intended purpose. Every gift is intentionally given to serve an intended purpose. The purpose of a gift is to render fulfillment due to the recipient. Fruitfulness is the expression of fulfillment of purpose.

Every manifest gift from God is an expression of the tangible reality of God’s divine glory in the Spirit.

Eden is an expression of the tangible realm of fellowship between man and God. Thus, every good manifestation of a gift is a type of Eden, and is vested with the reality it represents, portrays in the Spirit and bears the fullness of symbolism of everything that constituted the Garden of Eden.

Sex is God’s gift for humanity to enjoy emotional affection of fulfillment.

God gave man a garden to tend, guard and keep it. To tend means to have a disposition to do something, leaning on, incline to, and manage something.

Eden was that native element for man to enjoy fellowship with God and be able to fulfill the function for which he was created. It is the realm where man was meant to tend, incline to/lean on to, as the only way by which both he and the Lord would enjoy fellowship.

In the context of sex, marriage is a type of Eden as man’s native element of fellowship with God. Marriage is the only native element where both man and woman would enjoy sexual communion with each other in God’s presence.

Just as Adam and Eve were meant to tend to Eden (incline to/lean on to), God ordained that a couple lawfully married should inline/lean on to their matrimonial union, which is a type of Eden, exercising oversight to enhance their sexual communion as a couple in God’s presence.

In other words, man and woman were to be faithful stewards of the holistic components of sex in holy matrimony, ensuring the sustenance of the symphonic equilibrium therein.

Man was also meant to guard Eden. This means that Adam was to shield the garden from any danger, to protect the garden from harm. Adam had to ensure that every precautionary measure is in place to insulate the garden from any intrusion that would destabilize the symphonic equilibrium, and the harmonious essence of functionality.

Why would God envisage a scenario of impending danger when everything He created was perfect including man? It is because God in His foreknowledge knew that sin was going to pervade the symphonic equilibrium of essence in Eden, the native element of man’s place of fellowship with God.

Any form of intrusion from without the garden would mar the symphony of Eden, not just as a garden per se, but the spiritual reality it portrayed in terms of man’s natural habitat in affording him fellowship with God without limitation.

In the context of sex, the matrimonial union needs to be guarded from any form of intrusion from without it, even the possibilities of either the man or the woman to perpetuate sexual perversion, which is bound to disrupt the marriage.

Man and woman were meant to commune with each other via sex only to the extent that their communion with each other is founded on both and individual communion with God, whereby none or both is found wanting in so far as perversion is concerned.

The Church is also a type of Eden, with Christ as the Prototype prefigured as Adam. The Church is meant to commune with Christ in the realm of worship in truth and in Spirit; thus, Christ is jealous about His Church tending and guarding it from perversion.

The Church, which is prefigured as Eve as bride, must play her part to remain submitted to Christ. When sin is found within the Church, it violates the symphonious equilibrium of essence in worship/fellowship with the Divine.

Man was also meant to keep the Garden of Eden. He was to ensure that the garden remains in a certain state, position, or activity in tandem with divine requisites. He was to ensure that it conforms to the divine standard, celebrating the symbols of the essence of Eden, not just because of a ceremony but embracing the reality of Eden more as a spiritual reality than physical placement.

In the context of sex, marriage has vows which both must keep to the letter and the spirit. The union must be celebrated beyond a wedding, especially the wholeness of sex, which is symbolic of the reality of communion man has with woman in the spirit presided over by the Lord. The communion they both share is a type of communion the couple ought to have with the Lord in the Spirit.

Man has a part of himself which he can only come to appreciate, celebrate, and embrace when God induces him to have his emotional part of his being relate with that of a woman (God saw that it is not good for man to be alone; hence, He created woman for man). He gets to relate well with himself upon communing with God who reveals His love for him, such that as he gets drawn to woman, man relates well with her on the strength of how well he relates with himself.

Man gets glorified when he relates with his wife in the context of sexual communion, just as God gets glorified when man fellowships with Him.

The epitome of both man and woman’s fulfillment as a couple is their essential exercise of emotional expression towards each other in the context of sex, as enabled and willed by the Divine.

Sex in marriage is a type of fellowship in Eden where man and woman who are lawfully married enjoy the benefits of communion with each other as man enjoyed communion with God in Eden, thereby exercising capacity to fulfill his/her function for which he/she was created.

Each time man fellowshipped with the Divine in Eden his threefold capacity of personality was enhanced in that he related well with creation.

Sexual communion in holy matrimony enables both man and woman to relate well with creation given that God enhances them to appreciate each other, learning more of God in the context of marriage.

Sex was meant to facilitate man to fully comprehend the profound mystery of divine purpose God has for him/his wife. The more man fellowships with God, the more he understands his divine purpose and connects with them same.

The more sex is celebrated in holy matrimony the more the couple gets to comprehend their individual and corporate purpose as a couple in light of their comprehension of the Divine.

Man can only enjoy sex fully while in holy matrimony just as true fellowship with God is only within Eden, which is man’s natural element.

Just as Eden is man’s place of true freedom, where he/she is void of fear, guilt/shame, limitation, marriage is man’s natural element to have sex where he/she is not ashamed/embarrassed to enjoy sex with his wife in God’s presence, for both are assured of divine endorsement to generate divine purpose and continuity of the same via expression of emotional potentialities, intent on fulfilling each other.

Fellowship with God enables you to undress every profane impediment of shame so as to be clothed with divine glory. Sex in marriage was ordained to enable the couple undress hindrances to their communion such that they both cloth each other with essentials of mutual affection, sustenance, joy, support, confidence/boldness, kindness.

Sexual communion in holy matrimony is a type of walking in the Spirit where you don’t gratify the desires of the carnal nature. Sex is the outflow of the exchange of fellowship between man and God within the area of both his emotional capacity relating to God’s emotional capacity. Thus, the extent of man’s efficiency in his fellowship with God in the area of his emotional capacity determines how efficient he communes with his wife at the place of sex. Poor fellowship of man with the Divine will result in despondent sexual performance.

Since God is the Author of emotional capacity which He has vested in man, it takes man to be effectual in exercising his emotional capacity via sex in marital context only to the extent that he constantly yields the emotional part of his being to God in fellowship. Man’s constant yielding to God in the area of his emotional capacity, makes God to infuse divine stamina and grace within man’s emotional being on the basis of man’s knowledge and revelation of love from God.

The exchange of love between man and the Lord empowers him to be able to know to handle his sexual drive with woman because fellowship with God enhances spiritual potency.

Sex in marriage is an expression of exercising divine potency. Sin incapacitates and renders man to be impotent to relate with God. True potency in sex is by reason of man guarding his/her moral purity. Premarital sexual relations render one to become impotent such that he/she fall short of wholeness of communion.

Cheating of spouses denotes spiritual impotence, where you cannot generate divine purpose (as symbolized by conception of a child).

The mind of man must receive truth about sex from God, resulting in the emotional part of man capacitated to respond to the love released from God, which in turn makes man to know how God would have him appropriate his love towards woman.

And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.

And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Genesis 2:18-25 (NKJV)

Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan. And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there. The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason? And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?

Matthew 19:1-5 (NKJV)

The purpose of sex is to make both man and woman to become one flesh. This implies that the man must severe his attachment to his parents, be united to his wife and cleave unto her.

To be united means to act or bring together for a common purpose or belief. To be united is to link, merge, and combine together. In the context of sex, both man and woman are to bring on the common board of their matrimonial bed the tokens of aspirations, emotional cum affection urges symbolized by the discharge of bodily fluids which apart from being merged cannot realize purpose exclusive of the other. These fluids are figurative of aspects of both man and woman’s dreams/visions, dormant capacities which only become activated when duly merged together for each to add up to a whole single entity that is full of life.

The seed of man cannot generate life without the woman’s egg. The woman’s egg is the incubating chamber where man’s seed must abode for life/purpose to come forth. In marriage, man is the progenitor of God’s purpose vested within his seed while woman is the incubator who nurtures God’s purpose vested within her egg and womb, while God is the one who fortifies the wholeness of the union through which His purpose gets realized.

Just as the conditions for fertilization must be right, as well as the conditions for the womb must be ideal for the foetus to develop, the spiritual conditions of man’s fellowship with God must be ideal, both within his heart, mind and soul.

Sex outside marriage creates an unfavourable ground/environ for purpose to abort, because sin intrudes the unwarranted relationship by cutting off man’s fellowship with God and fellowship with his woman, resulting in tension, guilt and loathe for each other.

You cannot fulfill purpose nor enter destiny when conditions are unfavourable and immaturity creeps in. When the unmarried engage in sex, their purpose aborts, for they lack what it takes in the spirit to tap into divine capacity requisite to nurture purpose in seed form, for guilt, shame and fear are expressions of immaturity, for the right time to nurture is maturity where conditions are right.

Sex as a communion within marriage enhances man’s closeness to his wife and vice versa, and both as becoming one are enhanced to draw closer to God, and their common purpose.

Sex outside marriage draws man away from his wife/future wife, thereby implying that both fall short of drawing complementary sufficiency of each other because sex in this case draws a wedge between man and God.

For man to cleave to woman means that he is compatible or in accordance with her essential makeup/being. It also means both man and woman are able to adhere/bind/bond with each other. Both man and woman have what it takes to bear with each other’s essential makeup regardless of the flaws both have.

It also means to make by cutting into as used in the sentence, “The water is going to cleave a channel into the rock.” In the context of sex, it means that both man and woman shall pervade each other with autocratic spontaneity to create a realm of unlimited stratum of abode within each other where both shall have access at pleasure, regardless of the external circumstance. Then with time as the couple continually relate, each will endeavour to fill the stratum of the other progressively so that in a period of time both man and woman will become full of each other, where both become an appendage of the other.

Now for this to become a reality first and foremost God must infuse in both man and woman capacity for each to allow the other to pervade at will, for there mustn’t be any impediment between the two when this transaction takes place.

Sex is a threefold trinity fellowship depicting man’s threefold personality in fellowship with God’s threefold personality. God is the presiding party who is the author of the fellowship, man and woman are the two participating parties, making the trinity fellowship.

Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NKJV)

God stirs man and woman to connect with each other while He presides of their continued union, thereby motivating the two to ignite their divine fire of generational capacity.

God is the third cord which brings balance for the union to brood/incubate, resulting in the birth of vision that with time/process consummates into purpose.

Sex is wholesome only when God ordains a matrimonial union of both man and woman. Both man and woman partake of each other’s essential compartments of their emotional being in the presence of the Lord. God motivates both with divine mandate and infused power to exchange/share into each other.