The Mystery Of Sex – Part 2: Sermon By Apostle Gobanga
But when the Pharisees heard that He had silenced the Sadducees, they gathered together. Then one of them, a lawyer, asked Him a question, testing Him, and saying, “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?” Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.”Matthew 22:34-40 (NKJV)
Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him. He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine but the Father’s who sent Me.John 14:23-24 (NKJV)
Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits, whether they are of God; because many false prophets have gone out into the world. By this you know the Spirit of God: Every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is of God, and every spirit that does not confess that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is not of God. And this is the spirit of the Antichrist, which you have heard was coming, and is now already in the world. You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world. They are of the world. Therefore they speak as of the world, and the world hears them. We are of God. He who knows God hears us; he who is not of God does not hear us. By this we know the spirit of truth and the spirit of error.
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. In this the love of God was manifested toward us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
No one has seen God at any time. If we love one another, God abides in us, and His love has been perfected in us. By this we know that we abide in Him, and He in us, because He has given us of His Spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent the Son as Savior of the world. Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God. And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him.
Love has been perfected among us in this: that we may have boldness in the day of judgment; because as He is, so are we in this world. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. We love Him because He first loved us. If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? And this commandment we have from Him: that he who loves God must love his brother also.1 John 4 (NKJV)
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known. And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.1 Corinthians 13 (NKJV)
Sex is a manifest gift from God to serve as an expression of man’s communion with the Lord within the tangible reality of divine glory in the Spirit. Divinity communes with humanity via worship the way man communes with woman via sexual intercourse to enable the couple to enjoy emotional fulfillment.
Marriage is a type of Eden. It is the native element where a couple would enjoy sexual communion with each other in God’s presence.
Sex in marriage is an expression of a couple exercising the manifest capacity of their emotions to fulfill the function for which they were created for, within their ordained native element of holy matrimony.
Sex is the manifestation and expression of the reality of a couple’s marital communion in the Spirit and bears the fullness of symbolism of everything that constituted the Garden of Eden.
God ordained that a couple be faithful stewards of the holistic components of sex in holy matrimony, ensuring the sustenance of the symphonic equilibrium therein.
Adam had to ensure that every precautionary measure is in place to insulate the garden from any intrusion that would disrupt/destabilize the symphonic equilibrium, and the harmonious essence of functionality.
The components of sex entail the entire personality of an individual’s being, his/her attributes and capacities. These include behavioural, temperamental, emotional and mental- that characterize a unique individual. Personality denotes the sum total of an individual’s essential attributes of behavioural/temperamental traits, emotional and mental capacities. Every aspect of man’s essential makeup is vested with inherent capacity to function in the manner preordained by the Divine.
Just as man communes with the personality being of the Divine via fellowship/worship, both man and woman commune with the personality being of each other at the place of sexual intercourse.
Sex is the outflow of the exchange of fellowship between man and God within the area of both his emotional capacity relating to God’s emotional capacity. This exchange of fellowship is also inclusive of both the mind and the will of man.
The Components Of Sex
As the receptacle and repository of divine truth, the mind serves as the place where divine secrets about God/man are stored. With the mind is man able to receive truth from God so that man gets to know God better.
In the context of sex, the Divine must first and foremost reveal to the mind of finite man the mystery of sex, so that man can get to relate with God’s purpose for sex in marriage, for the couple’s applicability. The mind is the first component that must receive/get to know the revelation of essential truth from God about sex before the man is able to function sexually; you cannot be effectual during sexual intercourse in marriage unless you have the revelation of the truth about sex from God.
Yet it is the Divine’s ordination that the truth about sex is appropriated within matrimony, not without. Void of observance of divine truth about sex within matrimonial bounds leads to abuse of the gift of sex, where instead of truth, people get to embrace satanic deception that sex can be celebrated from without matrimony.
Divine truth about sex is functionally expressed within the divine provision of marriage. The mind of man must interact with the mind of God, for it to discern the truth about sex and comprehend God’s purpose for sex before man applies the same in Holy matrimony. This is possible only when man allows the Spirit of God to unwind the myths/fables concerning sexuality and instead letting the Holy Ghost infuse divine revelation.
It is with the mind that people get to know and comprehend revelation of divine truth received from God through the spirit man. The human mind must exercise divine capacity to perceive and receive the truth from God about sex, by seeking a total renewal in the area of intellectual capacity.
I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.Romans 12:1-2 (NKJV)
The old mind cannot appreciate divine truth about sex for it is an upfront against Kingdom values. Only the new mind with a new capacity can enable man appropriate revelation about sex from God. Without a renewal of the mind, it’s utterly impossible for a man/woman to perceive God’s perfect will for their lives especially if at all they’re sexually involved with each other outside holy matrimony.
Based on divine revelation of the truth about sex revealed and received to/by the mind, both God and man can transact with each other via the currency of divine love; divine truth is the basis by which man is able to manifest his love for God, with which he can apply in relating to fellow man.
Love cannot be expressed void of truth, for truth is the foundation of love, while love is the expression of divine truth. What a man knows, he loves or hates; and what he hates or loves results in an action of the will.
The divine truth of the knowledge of sex revealed to man by God is the motivation by which he gets to love the Lord, and everything that the Lord loves to the extent that the Lord manifests His love for man.
Without the knowledge of divine revelation of truth there can never be the transaction of divine love between man and God. Thus, even in the area of sex, man cannot exercise his love for his wife without first knowing the truth about sex from God, and use the same to form his basis for expressing affection sexually.
Man must first have the divine revelation of his wife from God, get to know her for who she is in the Lord before he knows the divine revelation of the truth about God’s mind/purpose for sex, in order for him to exercise his emotional capacity to function in sexual communion with his wife.
Love is vested in the truth and is what proceeds from the truth. Truth is the precedence of love. Love is the splendour of truth. The revelation of divine truth from God concerning the purpose of sex is the basis for motivation of love to emanate forth. Love emanates from that which is essentially true/real, not falsehood. It is only the truth that draws love towards itself, for truth is tangible and love prefers tangibility not void.
Love is only attracted to that which is truth. Sex is an expression of love that springs forth from divine revelation of truth concerning sex.
Love finds expression within the sphere of the revealed truth to the mind concerning sex. Love is drawn towards truth. Love can only manifest itself where reality is; love is defined by truth/reality. Love proceeds from reality/truth, because it’s the truth that enables love to connect man with the Divine. Love is also the manifest expression of revealed truth.
In the context of sex, the truth is what should draw man and woman to each other via love not emotions. Truth is what will afford emotions to find expression of love. When man and woman are truthful to each other they’ll commune sexually with positive effect.
Love is expressed via emotions; thus, both God and man have emotional capacity to manifest love towards each other. Love must always be comprehended from God’s perspective and not otherwise.
Love doesn’t originate from emotions. Just because you are emotional doesn’t mean that you truly love, for love only expresses itself through emotions. The genesis of love is truth. Your emotions only serve their effectual capacity to render purpose when the abidance of divine truth from mind pervades the emotional part of personality to enable the heart of man and God to transact the exchange of love.
Actions are the resultant factor of the expression of love. The will is what enhances the wholeness of communion between man and the Divine. It is within the realm of the will that the total person of an individual is able to commune in fellowship with God.
The will is that area within man where he is capacitated to receive revelation of God’s will so that he may obey the will of God. God ordained that man should only perform an action based on what he loves/hates.
When you love the Lord, its because you’ve partaken of His love and knowing what He loves and hates, you too will love/hate what God loves/hates. Thus, your actions will be performed on the basis of the divine capacity vested within your heart to both love and hate.
Sex is performed best within marriage only when the couple comprehends the mystery of sex revealed to them by the Lord with which they are able to love the same, and that they’ll have sexual intercourse by reason of the fact that they love God’s revelation of sex.
Without revelation of the mystery of sex, man and woman are short of capacity to love sex from God’s perspective; hence, because they’re short of love for sex from a divine position, their sexual communion will be rendered as malfunctioned exercise.
Obedience to God’s perfect will is only on the basis of truth revealed to the mind, which the heart gets to love. Sexual intercourse will be a fulfilling experience based on the reality of the truth about sex, which forms the basis of authentic love from God’s perspective.
The fullness/wholeness of sex is inclusive of the mind, emotion and will of both man and woman, based on their capacity to integrate their components of sex in light of divine revelation, knowledge, understanding and wisdom.
It is by the will that a couple is able to integrate divine wisdom about sex on their knowledge and understanding of sex from s divine perspective. Wisdom comes by the fear of God, meaning, having reverence for God by reason of His self-revelation of divine attributes, and expression of love for the same.
The exercise of the will to engage in sex is a heart position where the extent of one’s perception of sex and the emotional ability to embrace divine perception of sex.